This Sunday is Mother’s Day, and responsible parenting certainly deserves honoring.
Even accidentally-expectant mothers are congratulated for becoming pregnant, as if that were difficult (in most cases)! When baby-bulges are universally adored, the sacrosanctity of motherhood can also inspire unprepared, immature young women to gain some kind of self-worth through pregnancies. Children bestow social status and life purpose sufficient unto itself. The subordination of a mother’s own needs and creativity to those of her offspring becomes a moral high ground. But when women become mothers for the adulation and social acceptance motherhood confers, or simply for something to do that means something, the ground is prepared for dysfunctonal parenting.
Those who by choice or circumstance have not added to the population bear some cultural stigma of being barren, selfish, pitiable women who care little about the future and deserve ostracization. Yet there are 19 million women in the U.S. between the ages of 19 and 44 who, out of choice or circumstance, are childless. They are a population!
It should be remembered that childfree women are able to feel empathetic connection to every being, not just their own bloodline. They have more time for creative and useful activities and might even be able to help heal the damage inflicted on children by dysfunctional parents.
Mothers and childfree women alike can celebrate this Mother’s Day in West Marin, CA. There will be a celebration of, by and for all women, at the Dance Palace in Point Reyes Station, from 2 – 4 p.m. We’ll have a conversation for non-mothers about their active, satisfying (or not!) lives. Let’s celebrate with laughter, tears and hugs. Mothers and men are welcome, too!